Purpose

By the end of this lesson, you will be able to name and apply the four stages of the GROW model to structure a coaching conversation.

Lesson Explanation

The GROW model is one of the most widely used coaching frameworks, providing a simple four-stage structure for a coaching conversation:

G — Goal:     What does the client actually want to achieve, specifically?
R — Reality:  What is the current, honest situation right now?
O — Options:  What possible paths forward exist?
W — Will:     What will the client actually commit to doing, and by when?

The stages proceed in this specific order for a genuine reason: establishing a clear Goal first prevents the conversation from becoming an unfocused vent session; examining Reality next grounds the goal in actual current circumstances, not wishful thinking; generating Options only after Reality is understood avoids jumping to a solution before the actual problem is clear; and Will converts the chosen option into a specific, real commitment, connecting directly to the accountability structures covered in Part 4, Lesson 4.

A genuinely common mistake: skipping straight from Goal to Options, without genuinely exploring Reality — this risks generating options that don’t actually fit the client’s real constraints, since the constraints were never actually examined.

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